How selfish am I for thinking this?

Now, I know this is so selfish of me. I'm such a horrible person for even considering this. But hear me out.

I've been dating someone for a while, and well...she doesn't actually live here. She is from Japan, and was only studying English in my city, and she's going back to Japan in a little over a month from now. She will go back to finish her university credits (about 2-4 months) and then find a part time job. She said she won't come back here for a while unless a miracle or something happens. We love each other very much, and she was talking about having kids and stuff, so, I was wondering...how selfish would it be to get her pregnant before she leaves? I'm a shallow guy...maybe I'm too selfish, but it's the only way we can be together I think.

I don't know...maybe I'm just f*cked.

PS: I'm 19 and she's 22.

Any comments/answers/whatever welcome.

asked Nov 25 '11 at 11:32

Ryu__
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DON'T get her pregnant in your current situation. Your obviously & most definitely being utterly selfish.

Your both in your early twenties with your whole lives ahead of you & getting her pregnant will utterly and supremely MAJORLY complicate both your lives, especially her life.

Man up, use your intellect & create a stable life for yourself before getting her pregnant. If your relationship is truly legitimately serious, You both need to discuss getting married & having quality, financially stable & reliable long term jobs with a stable home.

Plus, You’d be bringing kids into a unnecessarily complicated lifestyle. You’d have to pay Doctor bills for the kids as well, help feed & cloth the kids, ETC. All that’s EXPENSIVE.

Enjoy life in a fun yet responsible way while your both still in your early twenties.

answered Nov 25 '11 at 12:44

BlazeEagle
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yep, enjoy life, enjoy the company and well you may have sex as there are several contraceptive methods. Plan your family along the relationship including WHEN to start having kids and all. be sure to stand on a steady financial ground when you start a family because even if money can't buy everything, truth states that everything needs money. good luck

(Nov 27 '11 at 03:53) xedric14

Having a baby will not necessarily bring you closer or keep you two together. Having a baby at a young age will complicate the relationship and the stress of lack of a stable income will cause more fights. Your whole life will revolve around the baby and there will be no time for school which reflect in your grades and failure to get a job afterwards. If you two truly love each other then you will find a way to get through this which resorting to having a baby.

answered Nov 25 '11 at 13:28

timonline
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0	Someone dropped their balls in the parking lot. Dude, that's the kind of stuff girls do to guys. Whatever ou do don't f up her life. answered Nov 26 '11 at 13:48 lambda1982 1●3●3●3

0	thats a terrible idea. if you love her, and you can, then move there with her. or make it work long distance until she comes back. getting her pregnant will probably break you up if she finds out you did it on purpose so she wouldn't leave. answered Nov 26 '11 at 21:03 GilOsborne 586●19●22●29

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