My parents are split up, and my mum doesn't ever drink in front of us. So basically I've grown up thinking drinking is bad at my age. And seen as I've never been in a position where drink is available (except at a wedding), I haven't drank really.
Now, I met a girl. She's intelligent (more than me), but she got drunk, got off with 3 people (as in kissed, for minutes at a time). I felt bad about this, and then the next day she was peer pressuring me into drinking. But I'm not sure if she meant to because she hasn't mentioned anything about it since, and she even drank non-alcoholic beer and told me about it. Once we'd explained a few things, we realised basically, that people at my school tend not to drink, but she says most of her school year get drunk every weekend. She doesn't, but she's obviously got influence.
My best friend is having a BBQ in a week, and I would like to go. However, he's asked people to bring drinks. I can't get any seen as mum doesn't let me drink. He says just don't drink but that's just giving in to how my mums brought me up. And I've learnt now that all she's done is set me up to drink a lot in university, where I've been told the beer is cheap.
I'm annoyed at my mum really, because she should have introduced me to beer earlier, but she just seems reluctant to even let me drink anything.
I'm 15 and so is this girl, if that makes much difference. I know I shouldn't get drunk at my age, but I should be able to drink and enjoy myself.
Btw, this girl is very similiar to me, and I will get annoyed at her if she tells me to drink again. I guess the reason she drinks is it lets her be someone else, where as really she's kind and sweet and quiet (atleast around me).
So I need some opinions on all this because I'm just stuck in a position that I can't really see a way out.
Thanks guys :)
Answer by Patxi · Aug 27, 2011 at 11:41 AM
I don't like alcoholic drinks, they taste like really! Also you can get sick if you drink a lot. What I want you to do is listen to your inner consciousness(you know that voice that tells you what's right), my friends drank a lot since 12th grade and I don't like it one bit, it's ok once and then but a lot I don't think so.
If you think you should not do it, simply say No!
Answer by BAAM · Aug 27, 2011 at 12:23 PM
15 is way too young to drink. You are really still forming your personality and building your adult confidence and if you use alcohol regularly it could cause you to become socially dependent on alcohol. If she or your friends pressure you to drink, find someone else to hang out with. There are better people.
Answer by Michael Graham · Aug 27, 2011 at 12:23 PM
I have been drinking since i was about 5, and alcohol has always been available to me if i wanted it, if my parents were drinking, and i wanted to try some, i was always allowed. If i go to my Nannys i will drink 1/2/3 cans of beer or guiness and noone in my family sees anything wrong with it. Their philosophy for bringing us up with alcohol is if you completely ban it, at one stage they will go out and get wasted in rebellion, if you allow them to try it in moderation they will learn to drink responsibly. In the UK you can drink in a private residance from the age of 5, within reason, and 6 year old isn't legally allowed to get drunk, but it has got to the point that i have now built a small tolerance to alcohol that i can drink alcohol at social meets and not feel it, 3/4/5/6 cans over a long night and be fine. If i drunk that and hadn't been raised with a mouthfull of wine, beer on special occasions and as i got older beer while i was working in summer (manual work for family, digging over gardens etc etc), and allowed to try anything i wanted within reason, i would have no tolerance and would get drunk after 2 or 3 cans.
I am not going to tell you to drink, but here are a few words for if you do drink, i have learn from personal experience.
Don't try and keep up with other people drinking. If they get drunk every weekend it will take them possibly 10 cans or more to get drunk. If you drink that much after never having alcohol you will most likely end in hospital. Have 1 or 2 cans, depending on your weight or body size, give it half an hour, see if you like the taste, and if you do, have one more. But never just think when you have finished one can "i feel fine, ill have another" straight away. Alcohol takes time to enter the body, you will suddenly go from no feeling of drunkness, to 2 extra cans, which will affect you alot the first time you drink.
Have a good meal before you do drink. This will allow you to drink more without getting drunk, it will also make it more pleasant if you do get drunk.
Stick to one thing or another. Dont go from beer, to vodka, to cider. You will get drunk on nothing, and will feel sick, and you're more likely to have a hangover, you dont want to get drunk.
Understand if you keep drinking, it will only go worse. It will go from a happyish state, to a depressed one being sick. I have never drunk enough to have this, as i drink responsibly but i have seen it in friends.
I have followed these things and they have for the majority kept me safe when drinking. Don't drink with people you don't trust, and just take things super slow. I drink as i said maybe 3/4/5/6 cans over a night. They are 2-3 units each. If i start drinking at 6 i will maybe stop at 12 or 2 in the morning. Alcohol leave the system at 1 unit an hour, so i have got rid of 6-8 units in that time, so 3-4 cans of beer have gone from my system, if this makes sense, don't drink too fast, have a beer, then go back to lemonade or soda, whatever they call it where you are, for a while.
I hope this has helped. I am not going to say drink, but as i said how i have been brought up i have learnt to drink responsibly, and only with the right people. This means i don't end up wasted or the wrong end of a practical joke that goes wrong. The laws may be different in different countries so this applies to the uk, so it may not be 100% relevant for the US but i hope you can take something from it.
Answer by Yarvaxea · Aug 27, 2011 at 04:04 PM
well you can drink and have fun without getting smashed.. I would advise however that the first time you get reeeeaaaaaalllllyyyyy wasted do it at a safe location like home or at your best friend.. you never know what's gonna happen :P
Answer by Ivan Tomica · Aug 27, 2011 at 11:59 AM
Never! I am 19 years old now, and i tried to drink alcohol when i was 14 and i liked it , started to drink more. And then one day i asked myself "is this really necessary?" answer to that question was no. Since i was almost 15 years old i sad no to alcohol and peer pressure and since then i only drink maybe one non-alcoholic beer in 3 or 4 moths. Believe me , world is better without alcohol.
Answer by Razor512 · Aug 27, 2011 at 12:01 PM
I would say try to keep it above 2 years old :)
It is hard to tell what age is right for drinking alcohol. for me I don't see my self drinking alcohol (I have tried a sip of beer before and it was the worst thing I ever tasted).
I don't see the point in drinking alcohol. Drinks like regular soda are significantly cheaper and taste much better.
If you are interested in alcohol then nothing we say will prevent you from trying it, so I recommend you try some beer, the taste will put you off of drinking alcohol.