I have a friend who's a boy (I'm a girl). It's obvious to everyone at our school that he likes me. (People have told me a ton of times.) This has never been an issue between us in the past, but now that we are older I am worried that he might ask me out. I don't want to date him but I also don't want to make him feel bad. It's important to me that we stay friends.
So my question is: If he does ask me out, how do I say no without ruining our friendship or hurting his feelings?
asked Feb 21 '12 at 09:46
Honestly just tell him, be upfront about it. Tell him no and why. Long ago in high school I liked a girl and I wanted to go out with a girl. But she kept coming up with stories saying she was busy or she was going someplace with her brother. Well i called her house one time and found out what the plans she told me was false. Anyways it didn't work to well next time we met face to face.
answered Feb 21 '12 at 11:06
You know. People at my school think a close friend of mine and I should date. However, we both have no interest in each other in that manner. It goes to show you sometimes what people think is going on, is not really going on. Yet it could be true that he does like you. My point here is that what people think, may not be what is really going on.
Telling him out right could be a big blow, if he does like you, and honestly may make him like you more. I also try not to make assumptions about that sort of thing either. I would make sure you do not send him mixed messages. The hard part about this is, if he really likes you, almost anything can be taken as a mixed message.
I would take the more passive approach until you know more. If he comes out and says he likes you, then he does and you should tell him then that you don't see him that way.
answered Feb 21 '12 at 12:08