Spank, or not to Spank your Children?

Only slap in the most serious of situations, when they've REALLY been bad, otherwise, constantly slapping your kid for petty things, will make them hate you, or think they're naughty all the time and make them scared of you. Only resort to hitting if all other options are exhausted.

I do not believe in spanking, no. My girls grew up just fine without it, thank you very much. They know rules and follow them. They have respect for themselves and others. They are good people, and that means I did my job well raising them.

There are FAR more effective punishments than hitting a child.

Kids are always going to challenge authority and see what they can get away with.

We are just animals. More complex than a dog perhaps, but animals none the less and we have a basic instinct to challenge rules.

You should try to set up mutual respect.

If you don't set any boundaries then your kid will grow up doing what they want when they want. You need to shape them into a respectable person who understands boundaries and understands that actions have consequences.

The consequence I will leave to your discretion and better judgment. You will also raise your own kid based on the principals that your own parents taught you, you may take bits of what you think worked and merge it with things you think work.

If a spank is necessary punishment for disobeying certain boundaries then so be it as long as it's reasonable. Perhaps if your trying to get them to understand the concept of stealing. Perhaps you talk to them the first time, the 2nd time you stop them from seeing their best friends for a day or so. Maybe the 3rd time you spank. It's hard to conceptualize a situation till it comes up.

Most of the time there is a darn good reason to spank. Fear does work, it's an unfortunate truth. If the kid is fearful of spanking then they will try to avoid it, this could be by trying to do the same thing different ways or giving up on the idea altogether (stealing).

Though until I have a kid I don't really know what I would do. If I did spank I would hope I was doing it for a good reason, not using it as way to vent some life problem on the kid and not going over the top either. i.e beating the crap out of them.

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer and I think it's up to the parents to raise their kids the way they think is right. A stable, loving relationship between a man and a woman or even people of the same sex. I've seen kids grow up perfectly well brought up under a same sex relationship.

Spanking is a VERY necessary evil but should only be used when the child willfully violates the rules. My children were spanked whenever myself or my wife knew they did wrong on purpose. Spanking just for the sake of correcting a mistake only angers the child. Set down the rules as soon as they can understand then and then when they violate them they will know what to expect and thus the spanking will have the correct result. Above all else do not spank children to cause physical harm as that is ABUSE. The Board of Education is a very good and useful tool when applied correctly. NEVER USE YOUR HANDS!!!

Spank. Today's children are growing up weak with no sense of the suckitude that is real life. When they go out into the world, they will be unprepared.

I don't have children, but if my dad had spanked me more, maybe I would follow the rules a little more.

In the state of New Jersey, it is illegal to lay a hand on your child in a painful matter. If you are caught doing so, you can and will be thrown in jail with a huge fine for bale. Why? Well, in New Jersey, they say spanking your child is a harassment charge. Now can someone PLEASE answer this, how is spanking your child for a punishment harassment?

To answer this question, yes, you should spank you child but ONLY when it's necessary. If you leave a child with out punishment, they will eventually grow up to take advantage of the parent and will attempt and actually succeed at getting away and getting what they want. Spanking your child for something idiot isn't really a good idea. If the child did something out of the ordinary for a child's behavior, then yes, give you kid a light smack and make sure they still know who is boss.

Just remember though, if you plan on traveling to New Jersey or you live in New Jersey, don't get caught by the authorities. I'm just warning you in advance!

I was "Spanked" when I was a kid because I was out of control. Now I am 21 and even when I do something bad I wont be "Spanked" because my Dad is now scared of me. lol

what the heck?!?!?! why on earth would you want to hurt your children?!?!?! first of all, that's CRUEL. second, what good will it do? it will only make your children afraid of you, not respect you.

My dad threw me against the wall and went AWOL when I was 4 because I took an alarm clock apart. I ended up hating him for the rest of my life even though I forgave him for that moment.

spank 'em till you get enough... dam msg2short...need more characters