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I get the impression that being defensive is considered not a good thing to do. Why is that? What is wrong with defending yourself verbally as long as you do not say bad things about someone else?

asked Jul 17 '10 at 12:50

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edited Jul 18 '10 at 20:42

Ways "Being Defensive" isn't a Good Thing:

  • Hiding Something
  • Close Minded
  • Brain Washed
  • Prejudice

Some individuals/groups are uber close minded to the point that they refuse to admit when they're wrong.

  • Apple Fanbois
  • Democrats & Republicans
  • Muslims
  • Jehovah's Witnesses
  • Christian Fundamentalists
  • KKK & White Supremacists
  • NAACP Extremists
  • etc.

answered Jul 18 '10 at 11:31

r0bErT4u's gravatar image


Some individuals/groups are uber close minded to the point that they refuse to admit when they're wrong: r0bErT4u

(Jul 18 '10 at 20:47) Matthew B Matthew%20B's gravatar image

apple fan boys... defiantly

(Jul 28 '10 at 22:25) SJP SJP's gravatar image

It depends. It's not always a bad thing. The answers above me are mostly true. Take this advice.

answered Jul 18 '10 at 20:00

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Being defensive isn't always a bad thing. Too much defense can come across as aggressive, though. People who defend themselves irrationally are denying themselves the opportunity to learn, being counterproductive, making their and others lives difficult, etc. The keyword there is rational. Be rational about (and polite when expressing) your defensiveness.

answered Jul 28 '10 at 23:42

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Because when your being very defensive usually means you're hiding something. You never want to be too defensive...

answered Jul 17 '10 at 13:04

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Because people want to control you. Stand up for yourself.

answered Jul 17 '10 at 13:29

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The following web site from MSNBC has an interesting take on how men and women have different feelings about being defensive.


answered Jul 28 '10 at 22:20

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