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Ok so i am 15... Never dated, never kissed, never had a girlfriend... Is there anything wrong with me? I am not pretty and not so slim ... (maybe because i like to eat) . I do sports like rugby but its the same ... I am also a geek. When i was little i was so so so so so shy that people mocked me... Well i like a girl, but she is so pretty and i am so not... Does anyone have an advice. Please dont make fun of me! Thanks in advance! Little me :D

asked Jul 23 '10 at 19:26

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edited Jul 23 '10 at 19:35

Same situation, but I'm 20 years old.

(Jul 23 '10 at 19:29) decimic decimic's gravatar image

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Don't be in too much of a hurry to find a girlfriend. It will happen in it's own time. Does this girl talk to you? If she does, find out (from her) what her interests are and work on that. You may find you have things in common, if not, then maybe you could just be friends with her. If other girls see you hangin with this "good looking" girl, then they may see that your not so unattractive as they may have thought. Good luck

answered Jul 23 '10 at 19:41

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i speak an i have known her for a while but i somehow cant invite her out...

(Jul 23 '10 at 20:01) littleme littleme's gravatar image

Only you can take that step my young padewan. If your worried about being turned down don't be. Life is too short. Take a chance. If the answer is no then you can still be good friends. And who knows, maybe one day she may ask you out. You got nothing to lose.

(Jul 24 '10 at 01:02) Geenome Geenome's gravatar image

The last thing you need to do is think there is something wrong with yourself. By doing this, you will lose confidence in yourself and that will lead to being more shy. Being shy isn't all that bad, but when you want a girlfriend, you'll need to talk to a girl. I was shy myself when I was younger so I found it very very hard to talk to pretty girls.

I'm 22 and I have been through what you are going through now. Trust me, there is NOTHING wrong with you. Eventualy you'll meet a fun girl and everything will be OK. Never doubt yourself, girls love confident guys. Just make sure you don't get arrogant.

You think of yourself that you are not so pretty, but maybe the girl you like thinks you are pretty. Not everyone thinks the same way. Some girls like slim boys, others like chubby boys. Tall, small, dark skinned, light skinned. NO ONE is really ugly or hopeless.

Don't forget, you are only 15, there are so many years to come of experimenting, having fun, getting to know people. Your situation isn't all that bad. Just believe in yourself.

I always thought I would never get a girl. I'm a geek, don't do sports, like to sit behind my computer and make websites or edit movies. I always thought : "Why the hell would a girl want someone like me." 2 years ago I met this wonderfull girl and we are still together and are planning to move in together. Sure, there are things she doesn't like about me (my farting for example :p ), but there are also things I don't like about her. That's life. But we really love eachother.

So, my man, never give up. You are who you are and one day, you'll find a girl who loves you for the person you are.

Let me end with quote from the great artist Vincent Van Gogh.

The more I think it over, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.

answered Jul 24 '10 at 06:16

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If you think that you are personally less attractive than the person that you want to go out with, try and remember that not all people judge others solely on how attractive they are, as many people value other people based on personality and interests. Also, remember that attractiveness is relative, as it depends what you are comparing yourself / someone else or something else to, and the person that you would like to be in a relationship with may find you more attractive than you think you are.

answered Jul 23 '10 at 19:42

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Just give it time, it will happen. The main thing is be yourself, sometimes the ones you like won't like you the same way but that's ok because that special one will come along. Just hang in there and be happy.

answered Jul 23 '10 at 22:48

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Living is easy with eyes closed, Misunderstanding all you see.

It's getting hard to be someone but it all works out, Doesn't matter much to me.

(John Lennon-Strawberry Fields Forever)

(Jul 23 '10 at 23:58) jonesin jonesin's gravatar image

No advice...I'm 16, same situation. But, I haven't really been looking for a girlfriend, not saying I wouldn't want one though.

answered Jul 23 '10 at 19:28

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i haven't had a kiss until i was 20... it kinda comes with being a nerd... dont worry, be who you are and see where it goes... i didn't have my first "girl friend" -- long story thus why i put it in " " until i was 21...

my point is your turn will come, be who you are, try to be a little more outgoing (if your not outgoing which i think most geeks/nerds are not, which i assume you to be one being your on this site)

but remember this - your age girls go for the cool or the "bad" guys or the "stupid" guys (at least that was what i thought at that time) they will grow up learn that that is not the best idea...

answered Jul 23 '10 at 20:07

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15 never kissed or had a gf never dated either. lol So same situation.

answered Jul 23 '10 at 20:07

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edited Jul 23 '10 at 20:08

On one end of the spectrum, we have the dumb people who have kids while they're not even out of school yet. They have hundreds of sexual partners in their lives and never have a meaningful relationship.

On the other end of the spectrum, we have asexual people who go their whole lives without any. They never get STDs, and they never have to support families. Therefore they get to spend all their time and money at their own discretion. They may have meaningful relationships, but not in the traditional sense of a cohesive family unit.

The vast majority of people in the world fall somewhere in the middle. It's just a matter of deciding what you want -- where on the spectrum you want to be.

I'm 29 and in the same boat as you. There is nothing wrong here; it's about what you want. Nobody can tell you what you want.

answered Jul 23 '10 at 22:16

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edited Jul 23 '10 at 22:16

I am a girl 19 and never dated or done anything physical including kissing with a guy, i don't see a reason to date at 15 to be honest. I believe dating should be a time where two people who are considering marriage should get to know each other as a couple. Anything other then this is just using the person and hurting them when it ends. Saying that i also think Sex should be saved for marriage and to be honest i would not mind my first kiss being at the altar.

You are not strange. It does not matter if you are not slim or what society consider's unattractive. Us girls do not care so much believe it or not.

answered Jul 24 '10 at 03:29

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You can have your ideals, but if you wait till after you're married to have sex, then how you going to feel if the sex isn't great? Yes maybe sex isn't the "be all to end all" but it certainly counts. That doesn't mean you have to go out and bonk every person you meet, but at least you will gain at least a little experience.

(Jul 24 '10 at 04:07) Geenome Geenome's gravatar image

We would have a life time to work on it :D

(Jul 24 '10 at 04:19) Emily Emily's gravatar image

Well, up to one week ago I was just like you. I'm 16 and I never had a girlfriend before. I thought I would remain like this all my life. But last week I was in France to do a holiday course (french language) and I met a bautiful girl. (At least she's beautiful to me, I don't guess she could become a model :D) Anyway, we hit it off immediately, our friendship turned into a crush after only a day and by the end of the week we ended up in bed together. C'est la vie... I actually consider myself ugly, I gotta face full of spots, I'm quite tall and lanky and my hair's always a mess. I'm quite shy and normally I disguise this by beeing sarcastic and mean to girls. But me and my now-girlfriend are so much alike when it comes to hobbies and things we like, that I suppose its meant to be. So I guess, all that matters is finding the right person. In my case, I needed 16 years to find somebody who is the same kind of crazy as me, but that was definately worth it. :)

answered Jul 26 '10 at 15:27

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