I'm asking this question seriously. Don't close this because I really need help. I haven't had a life in a long time and I'm really wondering how I can get a life. I'm always busy with tons of computer related things, and I don't have very many real friends. I have plenty of online friends, and the few actual friends I have I never do anything with.
I don't really like social situations though. I find hanging out with friends, going to the mall, and similar things very stressful. I'll need to get some confidence. I'm really needing to get a life so can anyone help me?
Answer by rocky05 · Jul 07, 2010 at 11:22 PM
Maybe you should try going out with one or two people to buildup your social ability. Many of people are shy and get very timid around people. You are not the only person there are millions like you. You just have to take step by step do not force yourself.
Answer by alexleiphart · Jul 08, 2010 at 03:45 PM
You need to get social - NOT in the online world, but in the REAL world. One of the problems with the Internet is that people no longer get out of the house and off of their computers. I have 700 subscribers on YouTube and am on the computer a lot, but I make it a point [daily] to get out of the house and enjoy my life. Make friends!
Answer by Madison Tries · Jul 07, 2010 at 11:42 PM
You are almost exactally the same as me. You should find a group or club about something that you like in your aera. There is most likely allot of people there like you. And if you like it ask them if they have a (insert computer game, service, program). And then you can introduce them to your internet friends. Oh and do have Minecraft. Want to play with me on my server?
Answer by Headwards · Jul 08, 2010 at 11:19 AM
Alcohol is the answer, this is why people drink, it decreases your inhibitions, there are illegal drugs which do a similar thing with more severe effects, alcohol however is LEGAL and should be used RESPONSIVELY to help you enjoy yourself more in social environments. Please note, only drink if others around you are drinking too! dont drink for example, before you go to a frineds house or to the mall to hang out, drink in the evening with other people.... and dude - just make the effort, there are tons of people out there who would LOVE to get to know you, you need to allow them to!
hope this helps
Answer by Mihkel · Jul 09, 2010 at 07:03 AM
I'm also 14 and I don't like to go outside a lot either. The time I like to go out most is at night - a peaceful time of the day. Perhaps you could get out with your friends and with their friends so you get introduced by your friends to them and so on (I know I get a little confusing :P). Then you could just sit with them and if you don't want to talk you don't need to. If there's a conversation try to chat too. In that way you can get perhaps new friends. I sometimes find myself that I disgust going outside and if I'm with someone outside that day I'm angry and don't talk much. Just enjoy your time and don't think what others may think about your behavior or something else.
Answer by YamazaruNinja · Aug 17, 2010 at 12:25 AM
Here's a simple answer: Watch all of Chris' videos and read his blogposts! [Oh wait, never mind! That would be counter-productive as you don't think you have a life now]
Answer by Gorkon5567 · Jan 05, 2011 at 12:50 AM
I have Aspergers Syndrome as well, and though I've become decent at social interaction, I find that I just don't like it that much. I only usually need to go out with friends a few times a year to feel happy, and most of my friends are online. Getting a job will certainly help with social confidence, but there's one bit of advice that I think is crucial for fellow Aspies, and that helped me immensely. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being very introverted, or preferring to spend most of your time alone. It is a natural personality type, and is not nearly as bad as many people think. You have online friends and close in-person friends, so you are perfectly adept at social communication. Go out with your close friends a couple times and see if you like it or not. If you don't, that's perfectly fine. There is NOTHING wrong with you or your current life-style, as long as it makes you happy. Just need to make sure you know that. Good luck, comrade.
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